with seemingly serious intent, that men who get married are NOT good with the ladies, which is why they have to 'settle' for just one. I, too, am married and proud of it, but it always strikes me just how *differently* people can view the same phenomena.
As to your 'respectful dialogue' bit, I wholeheartedly agree and my own experiences have borne out that the vast majority of our fellow humans agree. I worked with a woman who had a rare form of growth retardation, which didn't leave her a full-blown dwarf but somewhere in between that and average stature. All the other nurses were like, "No, you shouldn't talk to her about it--you'll embarrass her!" I was like, "I'm going to take the other side on this one," so I strolled up to her, confessed my ignorance of her condition, asked her if she wouldn't mind describing it for me, and her reply was to look me square in the eye and say, "You're the first person to ever just come up to me and talk to me about it without acting weird. Everyone else seems to think I'm too afraid or ashamed to talk about it in public; they're the ones who are afraid and ashamed. Thanks for being up front! Now, here's what makes my condition peculiar..." Fifteen minutes later, I understood about two orders of magnitude more than I had previously in terms of growth retardation, the various causes, and what some of the specific indicators were (most of that information has been defragged out of my hard drives by now, unfortunately) and had made a casual friend in the process.
Moral of the story, for me, was to stop projecting onto other people. Be courteous, respectful, and polite--but for the most part people would prefer a direct, honest approach to a circumspect one.
Man, I love this community! :-)